Partnership Education

“….though modern Marriage is a tremendous laboratory, its members are often utterly without preparation for the partnership function. How much agony and remorse and failure could have been avoided if there had been at least some rudimentary learning before they entered the partnership….And that statement is equally valid for all relationships.” Leo Buscaglia from Loving […]

“Let’s…”

When we were boys, my twin brother, Wendel, and I always found things to do together. “Let’s play tennis.” “Let’s play catch.” “Let’s ride our bicycles.” “Let’s go to the store and get some baseball cards.” We were always finding ways to play together. Wendel or I would suggest something to do by saying “Let’s…” […]

Valentine’s Day Planning Kit

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching! Just for fun, I want to provide you with resources that you can use to plan your Valentine’s Day celebration. If  you are looking for that special card, here’s a website I recommend: Valentine’s Day cards from Hallmark Cards If you are looking for a bouquet of flowers that is just […]

The Gift of Understanding

Being able to listen to each other is fundamental to a loving relationship. In fact, listening is a much more powerful act than speaking. Listening to your partner grants them their self-expression. Your partner will feel enlivened when you listen to them. They will feel validated, seen and heard when you understand what they say. […]

Dealing with Upsets in your Marriage

Problems, stress and upsets are part of the landscape for married couples. When partners get angry, frustrated or annoyed, their sense of well-being, connectedness and partnership can disappear quickly. How well you deal with each other when the applecart of your life gets turned upside down can make all the difference in how effectively and […]

Happy Holidays!

Wishing you and your family a Joyous Holiday Season & a Happy New Year! Andy 

Assessing Partnership in your Marriage

The following is a tool that you and your spouse can use to get a sense of the degree of partnership in different areas of your life.  First, find some time in your calendars to have this conversation. Get together and talk about how you know when your partnership is strong. For instance, you both […]

Getting Married? Maybe Later…

When Martha and I got married in August of 1974, it seemed as if that was what everyone was doing right after college. Today, that’s not what everyone is doing. Today, many young adults are waiting until much later to get married or are forgoing marriage altogether. For every subsequent generation in the last fifty […]

Increased Divorce Rate Among Baby Boomers

My wife, Martha, and I are baby boomers. Many of our good friends are baby boomers. We are in that cohort of Americans born after World War II between 1946 and 1964. This year the youngest baby boomers are turning 50 years old! The oldest of us are closing in on age 70 years. As […]

Creating “Partnership” Projects

Fall is a time of the year when there is so much to do! Summer is over and there seems to be a billion projects on the horizon: Home improvement projects, landscaping projects, visits with family and friends, health and fitness commitments and so much more. Martha and I often sit down together and put […]