What Basketball Teaches Us About Marriage

Whenever I start working with a couple, I let them know that I am committed to the quality of their connection with each other, their teamwork and their partnership over time. If I were a basketball coach, I’d be committed to the same thing. What can we learn from the game of basketball in this […]

Phase 1: Falling into Us

Several years ago, I was sharing with a group of couples in one of my workshops about my second date with Martha, when we attended a community theater production of “Some Like it Hot.” I shared with them that it was on that date when Martha and I first fell in love. Martha, who was […]

Creating “Partnership” Projects

Fall is a time of the year when there is so much to do! Summer is over and there seems to be a billion projects on the horizon: Home improvement projects, landscaping projects, visits with family and friends, health and fitness commitments and so much more. Martha and I often sit down together and put […]

Relaxation, Reflection and Renewal

Martha and I recently returned from a forty-day vacation to celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary! We called our trip “Forty for Forty.” We concocted this idea 9 months ago after getting inspired about taking a road trip during the summer. We considered a two-week vacation, but that was too short. I suggested a three-week trip, but […]

“Let’s have a conversation”

In my relationship with my wife, Martha, one of us often says to the other, “Let’s have a conversation about _______________(fill in the blank).  The topic might be money, a home improvement project, a family member, our summer vacation or some issue.  We’ll pull out our calendars and schedule a time to have a conversation. […]

Featured Couple: Celebrating Valentines Day

Do you remember these candies? I used to love to give them to all my friends in grade school.  I found them at CVS this morning and they immediately became the next featured couple! Happy Valentines Day!

Featured Couple: Frolicking in the Sun

It has been so cold this winter!  I saw these in my closet this morning and they instantly became the featured couple in the spotlight today!  

Hooking Up and Hanging Out

I am learning a lot talking to my daughter about today’s dating culture. She sent me a New York Times article the other day on the end of courtship that described her experience to a tee – Hooking up and hanging out! Young adults today have ways to instantly access their social network with text […]

Featured Couple: Flirting

Putting Us First

At the end of August, Martha and I spent a wonderful and much needed vacation for a week and a half on Squam Lake in Holderness, New Hampshire. We swam, hiked, put together puzzles and read our books. We didn’t think about work or other responsibilities for a minute. We relaxed and replenished ourselves. We […]