The Art of Negotiating Household Tasks

The art of negotiating household chores starts with a commitment to teamwork, workability and effectiveness. You and your partner simply need a piece of paper, a pen, and time set aside to talk to each other. If you follow the following guidelines for negotiating household activities, you may find yourselves with a lot more time, […]

Creating Balance in Your Busy Lives

For many couples, life can seem out of balance at times. You and your partner may feel that you have too much on your plate and not enough time in the day to get everything done. Managing all your responsibilities and commitments can crowd out your commitment to the quality of your relationship and the […]

The Fine Art of Taking Care of Each Other

I took dance lessons in sixth grade, seventh and eighth grade. I learned the fox trot, the waltz and the cha, cha, cha. All the boys and girls in my grade sat around in a large circle and I learned how to walk across the dance floor to ask a girl if she would dance […]

Bringing Partnership to Money

Bob Mauterstock and I are leading a workshop called, The Couples and Money Workshop, on Saturday, October 29th on Cape Cod. The workshop is $249 per couple and will be held at the First Parish Brewster, 1969 Main Street, in Brewster. We are committed that you and your spouse come away from the workshop with a […]

Scheduling a Partnership Meeting

Martha and I have very busy lives. All the couples I work with do too. We all do! A common complaint I hear couples saying is “Our lives are so busy, we never have time to sit down and talk to each other.” Making the time to sit down and talk with each other, to […]

A Walk in Vondelpark

The following excerpt is from my book, The Partnership Marriage: Creating the Life You Love…Together. Martha and I strolled along in Vondelpark on a beautiful late summer day, as we were apt to do just before dinnertime when we were living in Amsterdam in 2005. The air that day was clear, the clouds lay suspended against […]

Making Time for Conversation

Life is very busy today. Martha and I often feel that we have too much on our plates and want to be less stressed and have more time for ourselves. Our businesses, our family, our friends, our garden, our health and our home take up sizable chunks of our attention. We feel as though we […]

Creating Fairness in Marriage

I learned many lessons about being a good husband and partner in marriage growing up with my twin brother, Wendel. One of them was about fairness in relationship. Growing up, Wendel and I paid less attention to whether we looked alike and more attention on making sure that whatever one of us received, the other […]

Align on Your Intentions

This past New Year’s Eve, I declared that 2016 is going to be a great year! That sounds wonderful, doesn’t it? Then I started to wonder: What was going to make 2016 a great year? Was it just going to happen because I said so? How would I know? I recently picked up a book […]

Stupid Fights

Martha and I have been married for over 41 years. In that time, we have had some pretty stupid fights. Of course, our arguments are never stupid when we are in the middle of them; they’re only stupid after the fights are over and we’ve had time to reflect. There was the time early in […]