Why Hire a Partnership Marriage Coach?

I work with couples who are looking to nurture their connection with each other, expand teamwork in their daily lives together and create a fulfilling, enduring partnership over time. When I share that with people, I generally get a very positive, enthusiastic response. When a prospective couple calls me, I’m happy. I feel very lucky! […]

Men’s Wellness Retreat

Save the date for Men’s Wellness Retreat! In collaboration with other speakers, I will be presenting a workshop at the Men’s Wellness Retreat on November 12th.  The title of my presentation is Exploring Partnership in Marriage (for men!). In my workshop, you will explore what partnership looks like for you in your marriage (or committed relationship).  […]

A Walk in Vondelpark

The following excerpt is from my book, The Partnership Marriage: Creating the Life You Love…Together. Martha and I strolled along in Vondelpark on a beautiful late summer day, as we were apt to do just before dinnertime when we were living in Amsterdam in 2005. The air that day was clear, the clouds lay suspended against […]

The Art of a Good Marriage

A Poem by Wilferd Arlan Peterson Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In marriage the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day. It is never going […]

Coming in June, 2014: The Partnership Marriage

I am very excited to let you know that my book, The Partnership Marriage: Creating the Life You Love…Together, will be available on Amazon by the end of this June! The premise of my book is that marriage is a lifelong conversation for fulfilling, enduring partnership. Here’s an excerpt from the book. From the Prologue: […]

Giving Thanks

Thanksgiving is just around the corner. I am looking forward to being together with family and eating bountifully. As usual, this holiday comes at a very busy time of the year for Martha and me and reminds me just how seldom I give thanks for anything, let alone the wonderful life we have. Martha, I […]

Keeping Intimacy Alive

As years go by, many couples discover that the intimacy they experienced in the first several years of their marriage doesn’t last forever. Chapman (2004) suggests that the “falling in love” kind of love is not real love at all. He says that “real love” recognizes the need for growth, takes effort and discipline and […]

Finding Time to Talk

Early in our marriage, Martha and I would find ourselves going along just fine and then, all of sudden, we’d be in the middle of an argument about money, housework or home repairs that weren’t getting done. We’d get lost in the argument and attempt to solve the issue then and there and, as a […]

Negotiating Roles and Responsibilities

One of the unrelenting, day-to-day realities for many couples today is getting all of the household responsibilities done to the satisfaction of both parties. How a couple works out their household roles and responsibilities can be the source of frustration and conflict or it can be the expression of effective teamwork. It could be said […]

Expressing Appreciation

Lynn Twist (2003) in her book, The Soul of Money, writes, “What you appreciate, appreciates.” When a couple appreciates each other and their marriage or committed relationship, their relationship appreciates. Appreciation can be thought of the antidote to taking each other for granted.  You can express appreciation through recognizing and sharing the gifts you see […]