Healing Hurts and Reconnecting

One of the lessons that Martha and I have learned over the years is that, to build a strong loving partnership, it’s very important to regularly connect with each other. We are interested in how the other person is doing. We check in with each other, we converse, we plan and we connect. When we […]

Creating Fairness in Marriage

I learned many lessons about being a good husband and partner in marriage growing up with my twin brother, Wendel. One of them was about fairness in relationship. Growing up, Wendel and I paid less attention to whether we looked alike and more attention on making sure that whatever one of us received, the other […]

Additional Spots Available in the Webinar Series!

You are invited to participate in The Partnership Marriage Webinar Series! I have additional spots available. You can participate either individually or with your partner! If you are thinking about joining the webinar and have questions, please call me at 617-942-2757 or email me at andy@thepartnershipmarriage.com. Here’s the information on the webinar series. The Partnership Marriage […]

Align on Your Intentions

This past New Year’s Eve, I declared that 2016 is going to be a great year! That sounds wonderful, doesn’t it? Then I started to wonder: What was going to make 2016 a great year? Was it just going to happen because I said so? How would I know? I recently picked up a book […]

Stupid Fights

Martha and I have been married for over 41 years. In that time, we have had some pretty stupid fights. Of course, our arguments are never stupid when we are in the middle of them; they’re only stupid after the fights are over and we’ve had time to reflect. There was the time early in […]

The Partnership Marriage Webinar Series

Starting on February 17, 2016, I will be facilitating The Partnership Marriage Webinar Series designed specifically for individuals and couples interested in exploring partnership in marriage or in committed relationship. Participants will explore marriage as a life-long conversation for partnership and learn the conversational tools outlined in my book, The Partnership Marriage: Creating the Life You […]

The Opportunity of Partnership in Marriage

The following excerpt is from my book, The Partnership Marriage: Creating the Life You Love…Together. “Partnership is a natural expression of your marriage if you and your spouse see yourselves as being responsible for the choice you made to get married in the first place. Being responsible for that choice forges a sense of personal […]

The Art of a Good Marriage

A Poem by Wilferd Arlan Peterson Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In marriage the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day. It is never going […]

Phase 5: Reinvesting in Us

Martha and I are squarely in this phase of our marriage. We are actively supporting our three adult children in following their passions, building our own business enterprises, taking care of our health, enjoying visits with our three grandsons and thinking a lot about our financial security as we look ahead to the latter years of […]

The Co-Pilot Metaphor

When I work with couples, who are raising young children or children of school age, I often hear their complaint that they simply do not have enough time or space to attend to the well-being of their relationship or the quality of their marriage. I completely understand their dilemma. I can remember that when our […]