Creating “Partnership” Projects

Fall is a time of the year when there is so much to do! Summer is over and there seems to be a billion projects on the horizon: Home improvement projects, landscaping projects, visits with family and friends, health and fitness commitments and so much more. Martha and I often sit down together and put […]

Relaxation, Reflection and Renewal

Martha and I recently returned from a forty-day vacation to celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary! We called our trip “Forty for Forty.” We concocted this idea 9 months ago after getting inspired about taking a road trip during the summer. We considered a two-week vacation, but that was too short. I suggested a three-week trip, but […]

What is a Great Partnership?

I am interested in partnership in marriage. I wondered this week about how people create partnership in other areas of life, such as in business or in sports. I did some searching on the Internet this week to see how people in different professional arenas might answer the question: What is a great partnership? Is […]

Coming in June, 2014: The Partnership Marriage

I am very excited to let you know that my book, The Partnership Marriage: Creating the Life You Love…Together, will be available on Amazon by the end of this June! The premise of my book is that marriage is a lifelong conversation for fulfilling, enduring partnership. Here’s an excerpt from the book. From the Prologue: […]

By the Year 2017…

In the summer of 2005, Martha and I were living in Amsterdam, The Netherlands, with two of our three children, and starting to think about coming back home to the United States. Martha’s four-year expatriate contract with an international bank would be coming to an end in a year’s time, our eldest daughter was getting […]

The Power of Co-creating Vision

From 2002 to 2006, Martha and I spent four wonderful years living in Amsterdam, The Netherlands, with two of our three children. In the spring of 2006, our expatriate assignment was drawing to a close and it was time for us to return home to the United States. We wanted to live in the Boston […]

Putting Us First

At the end of August, Martha and I spent a wonderful and much needed vacation for a week and a half on Squam Lake in Holderness, New Hampshire. We swam, hiked, put together puzzles and read our books. We didn’t think about work or other responsibilities for a minute. We relaxed and replenished ourselves. We […]

Transforming Pesky Problems

Sometimes, it is easy to think that a happy marriage is a problem-free marriage. Well, let’s check that out. Engage in the following little guided tour: Imagine being together over your entire lifetime. Envision all the things that are going to happen over the next 5, 15, 35 or 50+ years. Imagine all the bills […]

Exploring Ideas about Marriage

We all have different ideas and notions about marriage. We form beliefs and judgments about marriage by what we watch on television and at the movies, by what we read in newspapers and magazines and by witnessing the success or failure of the marriages of our own parents, family members and friends. We form all […]

Finding Time to Talk

Early in our marriage, Martha and I would find ourselves going along just fine and then, all of sudden, we’d be in the middle of an argument about money, housework or home repairs that weren’t getting done. We’d get lost in the argument and attempt to solve the issue then and there and, as a […]