Why Hire a Partnership Marriage Coach?

I work with couples who are looking to nurture their connection with each other, expand teamwork in their daily lives together and create a fulfilling, enduring partnership over time.

When I share that with people, I generally get a very positive, enthusiastic response.

When a prospective couple calls me, I’m happy. I feel very lucky!

Clayton M. Christensen has written a book, entitled Competing Against Luck. In the book, Christensen explores what allows businesses to grow, innovate and make progress. He writes that businesses have historically employed a strategy studying characteristics of their customer (i.e., their age, their income, their geographical location, their preferences, etc.) to get a better understanding as to how to attract clients.

As I’ve built my business, I’ve done that.

That got me thinking newly, “Why would a couple hire a partnership marriage coach?”

According to Christensen, however, my couples don’t hire my services (professional coaching and workshops) or buy my book (The Partnership Marriage) because of some personal characteristic (e.g., millennials, dual income earners, empty nesters): They hire me because they have a “job to be done.”

With that idea in mind, I started looking more closely at some of the jobs my couples have asked me to assist them with in their coaching with me:

• One older couple in a new relationship worked with me around how to consolidate two households into one as they were planning to move into a new home together.
• A younger engaged couple designed their vows for their upcoming marriage ceremony.
• Another couple worked together to foster greater intimacy in their relationship.
• Another couple worked out their household roles and responsibilities. They were interested be greater teamwork and clarity around who was going to do what at home.
• A couple who were interested in starting a family wanted to get aligned about when and how they were going to reorganize their priorities so they could fulfill that dream.
• A couple, whose adult children had left the house, wanted to create a vision for what was next for them.
• A newly married couple healed a long standing hurt in their relationship and resolved a major question, “Will our marriage work?”
• Another couple talked honestly about their differing views and personal habits around money and then invented a whole new perspective around how they could be full partners in their financial well-being.

In a successful marriage, there are many jobs to be done that call for loving connection, effective teamwork and productive partnership: raising your children, redecorating or renovating your home, planning dates, parties and social events, managing the daily and weekly logistics of life, going on vacation and taking care of each other’s health and well-being.

At times, you may feel that you and your spouse are not on the same page. Or, you are aware that you are not committed to the same things. Or, you feel that you are not communicating well around a task that needs to be done.

Christensen helped me to think more specifically about why a couple would hire a partnership marriage coach. Couples hire me because they want to get the job(s) of their shared life done well and in partnership!

That’s what I’m here for.

References

Christensen, C. M., Hall, T., Dillon, K., and Duncan, D. (2016). Competing against luck: The story of innovation and customer choice. New York, New York: Harper Collins.

Miser, A. (2014) The partnership marriage: Creating the life you love…together. Charleston, South Carolina: Create Space Publishing.

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